Friday, July 31, 2015

ProLove

  I have never been one to easily express my feelings or emotions even to my immediate family. I feel like I am training myself to be better in that area. It shouldn't be that hard for me. I come from a family of 6 and my parents and grandparents are still married. No broken marriage here. We are a normal family with some dysfunction. That's normal right. Now I am an adult with a husband and two beautiful healthy children. So why is it so hard for me? Why is it hard for me to show Love freely to others when I have been given so much?
  I see people all over the world through media that are in such poverty or heartbreak from loss that give their last to someone else in need.
  As a society or a culture do we put value on anything besides money? Life? Love? Others?
  I sat with my husband last night having a deep conversation about theology and what we actually believe in now vs. when we first meet 8 years ago. It was such a meaningful conversation because with two little ones we don't get to have any kind of complete conversation often.  That conversation stirred deep in my soul. That stirring brought so many things to the surface and Love was right there on top. 
  As a Christian I was brought up to believe a certain way. Looking back I disagree with so many things I was taught indirectly by the church. Help those in need but if some one shows up to church in a pair of shorts look down on them.
  I am saying all these things because as a Christian we are getting labeled like every other label. Bigot. Holier than thou. Racist.  The only Label I want to be known for is Love. I am not talking about telling people what they want to hear. That is not Love. When we marry someone we are supposed to Love them unconditionally. In marriage you have all these different balances with being in Love.  No one in their right mind would go into a marriage with a Lie or manipulation. So when we speak Truth to our Spouses we speak in Love, or we should anyways.  Here is a conversation of my own Life with my husband after the birth of my child. "I need to loose this pregnancy weight." Crying..sobbing.. My husband says to me, "If you are unhappy with the way you look or feel then change it".  Wait a dad gum second he is supposed to tell me that I am just fine the way I am; that I am a Goddess among women. Of course I did not like his response AT ALL but I knew deep down he was right. Anyone that knows my husband knows that he is a brutally honest person to anyone. The response that he gave me was direct but it was in his Love for me because he knew I was unhappy not fitting into my clothes. He Loves me so he isn't going to tip toe around the comment that I made.  This is one of the many reasons I was first attracted to him because I am a tip-toer.  Our response to every issue that comes against what we believe shouldn't be to argue in hateful slurs or names or talk about these issues to death. People should know what we believe and who we are by our actions. I am talking about Love being a Verb. If you don't know what a Verb is or might have forgot it is to express an Action. Just like in marriage to make it work you have to take action, to express your Love in Truth. Why can't we take this correlation and apply it to society? When you Speak to your so-called enemy wouldn't you be better off praying before you spout off the first thing that comes into your head? We show what is in our heart by the words that come out of our mouth. You might have the best intentions but when your blood starts to boil in the moment when you see or hear something that you don't agree with it is so much easier to get angry instead of praying on what is next.
  There are so many people that are hurting from life choices, trauma, loss and a whole array that some of us will never experience.  How will any person see who Christ is when we are trying to shove truth down their throats? They have to see the truth in US. As an ACTION. We have to Love them, build a relationship with them and care about their eternity. 
    My prayer is to respond to this World with the Truth in Love.